What I will say ... I'm sure not going to like it, I will be squinting, I will be mad after a while I put together a chaos ... pucha better we I say one day you are in a better mood ... no, better tell ya ... out of the question ... hopefully no big deal ... I do not know ... N'Diaye (deep breath):
My love, I want a motorcycle ...
If identified himself, my dear male reader, or at least it was easy to think of friends and acquaintances which are in a similar situation, let me lend a helping hand. While still enjoying my bachelorhood, I have repeatedly touched them a little motorcycling Marriage Counseling to some of my students. After all, although singles sometimes make us imagine the poor grace all grieving husband to the lady exposing her new "locurita" the crisis of the __ (put him on age, the mine was 25), is not good idea to throw a lawsuit over the person with whom we share ceiling, children, property and obligations. Before this, it is best to prepare for a possible war of words which we will touch anticipate and refute the arguments of the wife ("almost wife "or girlfriend), to show in the context of a healthy and balanced dialogue that their arguments are not as strong as her and even a first thought.
Let's steal a little inspiration and wisdom of the famous book The Art of War, the military strategist Sun Tzu. Born around the year 544 BC, in the state of Qi during the Warring States period in China, Sun Tzu says in the chapter on offensive strategy that five cases where it can be predicted victory
- "He who knows when to fight and when not will be victorious". Simple as that we will not to get me through the Lady with the happy idea that we want a bike when work is stressed, tired or distracted thinking about that and get to do shopping or something else. Here's going to take some strategic planning to take up the issue of the bike when she is receptive and happy, hopefully after giving a pleasant surprise or sharing a moment of free connection and good vibes.
- "The one who understands how to fight, according to the enemy's forces will be victorious." Here is thoroughly familiar with the arguments and counterarguments that concerned and adversative wife will get us out of the face when talking about the bike. They will see me through the typical approaches that the bike is dangerous, that one is the body, it will end up donating organs, even if one is careful that the others are, that the family comes first, and so on. This string of traditionally negativity stems from the fact that people, both aspiring motorcyclist as those around you, know news stories and people are being killed on a motorcycle or is seriously injured. What is not said and what they do not reflect is that the bike is NOT easy to drive a car but people believe that if it is. The vast majority of people learned and still learning to ride a bike through self or with a friend or family member who also learned the hard alone or with other known. As the bike difficult to master and require skills and expertise are rarely available to the public (that's why I started the adventure of Moto from scratch and I joined the BMW Driving School) is not uncommon to see why the wife always imagine the worst in the sum Husband + Moto. must be made to see the Lady that the risk is always present in all aspects of life and you can not live based on fear (if not leave out of bed each day), if one is body of the bike then we will make the investment to put the more mataburros solid in the game of probabilities and risks of riding a bike on the street to take a professional course management and practice will always tip the odds in favor, we will prepare and take our leave then secure the bike to bike cover all possible and we thank him instead of sabotage to support us even a little giving us a vote of confidence for the structured and responsible we are about to undertake.
- "He whose ranks are united in purpose will be victorious." is here where the soul, heart and life, as my dear mother, must be strongly aligned in achieving the purpose of buying the bike and become the best rider possible. If in doubt, if there are weaknesses in the time to talk to the couple on the theme of the bike, she will receive and take the opportunity to get away with a little manipulation, to a greater extent when it is contrary to the letter to the bike. If the Lady sees her husband really is not willing to give up the dream of the bike and has investigated about motorcycles and their performance, has made a rational budget to purchase the vehicle and accessories, you know where to take the course management and magically the house is full of motorcycles and related magazines, their ranks will be united in purpose of two-wheelers.
- "He who is well prepared and rest while waiting for an enemy that is not well prepared will be victorious." This is part of what we are doing to read this topic: anticipate, analyze and refute the objections which we will face. The careful preparation of counter and calmly and respectfully to state them can often be the prelude to the victory of the bike. Recall that the "enemy" is not the wife, but their objections based on myths, fear and ignorance.
- "He whose generals are able and not interfered by the sovereign will be victorious." this point I interpret as the "general" thoughts are focused on the bike project and, if they are not sabotaged by self, the "sovereign", these generals eventually be able to fulfill its mission even though the battle against spousal objections be hard.
R.
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